Yet another classic post from this past summer!
This one deals with Mel Robbins’ “The Five Second Rule,” which was the book of the month in my Facebook freelancing group back in… well a few months ago anyway…
Also, it’s a shout out to the blog that almost never was! (aka the blog that actually never was; aka the blog I almost created before I got frustrated and lost my nerve and waited a couple of months and then wound up creating this one instead; aka I don’t really know why I’m sharing this post except that it is still December and Christmas movies are awesome! aka that really has nothing to do with blogs but anyway, I hope you enjoy this post!)
#BookOfTheMonth #Oops #EpicFail
You guys, you’re not gonna believe this…
But, I have found a way to use the Five Second Rule against myself.
It started out just like any other day…
(But by lunchtime, I was hanging my head in shame, and wishing I had never heard Mel Robbins’ name at all…)
At the start of this month, I knew that if I didn’t do things differently, I would slide back into my old habits… that I would lose the momentum I’d gained in June and July… that I would withdraw from my freelancing pursuits… and that my dream of someday owning my own concertina would never become a reality…
(Just kidding; I already have a concertina… but I still don’t know how to play the darn thing…)
After days of heavy deliberation, I decided there was only one thing that would pull me out of my funk – Mel Robbins and her 5 Second Rule. (If you haven’t read the book, I highly recommend it. Spoiler alert: it teaches you to make important decisions and act on them… in five seconds.)
I needed something that would get me out of the house; something that would change things up; something that would challenge me to push through my limitations, and keep my focus on the road ahead of me, and give me the courage to continue down the long, treacherous path through pain and discomfort… to happiness and success.
< So why did you pick going to the gym? You know how much you hate exercise. >
> Quiet, you! This is MY story… Now, where was I? <
My Big Decision
I decided that the only way to make this work would be to choose something so difficult… and so distasteful… that I would have to force myself each day to see it through.
I decided… that I would start each day… by getting out of bed.
(Haha, I’m just kidding! Although if you know me IRL, that in itself is an accomplishment…)
I decided that if I just stayed home everyday, and tried to maybe rearrange my schedule or plan some new activity into my day… I wouldn’t actually stick with it. (Hey, when I’m home – I’m lazy…)
So to really change things up – I HAD to get myself up and OUT of the house… on a regular, continuing basis.
(Which for a fearful, anxious introvert like myself, is tantamount to Chinese water torture, but I had no alternative… drastic times, drastic measures, am I right? Of course I’m right. I’m almost always right. There was that one time… but that’s another story, for when you’re much, much older.)
So, despite my fears and reservations (and a really, really strong desire to just stay home!) I decided if I wanted to create true and lasting change… my best option was to go the gym, 5 mornings a week… and force myself to leave the safety of the nest… to do something difficult, and awkward, and uncomfortable… and to *stick with it* no matter what.
Making the Initial Change
The first morning was easy. You see, the night before, I tricked myself into making it a game. I woke up in the morning, and I recorded a Facebook Live, of myself struggling to wake up and complaining about the 5 Second Rule. I recorded a few more Lives while I was getting ready to go (it took me a looooooooong time to get out the door that first morning… but the hilarious videos that will live forever on my feed were worth every moment of struggle!)
The rest of that first week… was… easy-er (not easier, as in “easy” – but easy-er… as in still hard, but a little bit less than as hard as it should have been… so, somewhere between actually easy, and just not totes impossible…)
I still had to use the 5 Second Rule every morning. Like about 15 times every morning – but every time I did it, it worked. It kept me moving toward my goal, and helped to eliminate distractions… AND hesitation…
Last week was a little bit harder. I still don’t like waking up in the morning – add to that getting out of bed, finding my shoes and my wallet, combing my hair (which is pretty easy since I basically just got a buzz cut, but still, it’s always important to look your best…), and then leaving the house, driving seven minutes away from home, and going into a building where I have to be around other people (gasp!)… it’s a lot to get used to!
But I got through that second week alright… and somewhere around day 8 or 9 I even started to use some of the exercise equipment and try to get in a workout while I was there. I mean, what else are ya gonna do in a gym, right?
But seriously, making the decision to go to the gym, to change my morning routine, to push myself outside my comfort zone…
It was hard! But you know what? I’m glad I did it.
Just a few days in, I was already feeling better about myself, and about the choices I was making. And it was starting to bleed in to other parts of my day.
I actually started to get real work done, on identifying the kind of business I want to create, the work I want to do… the impact I want to make.
Using the 5 Second Rule helped me focus at home, and turn off (some) distractions, and make myself sit down and study, and practice, and focus on what really matters to me. And last week – last week, it helped me to finally identify my own strengths as a freelancer! (My cape is scheduled to be delivered no later than 8pm Monday… even got Amazon Prime free shipping. Score!)
I also used the 5 Second Rule to really articulate my message… and to dive right in and find a platform… and start to build an audience… to share my message with… and to move through fear and discomfort, to happiness, and success.
So, things are finally falling into place for me… and the 5 Second Rule has played a critical role in helping me to make all these things happen… and so, I woke up this morning, feeling on top of the world.
< Uh-oh, I’ve seen this situation before… Is this where things start to take a sudden and disastrous turn for the worse? >
> Quiet, I said! I’m telling this tale, not you! <
But The Plot Thickens…
You see… last night, I bought a new domain name, with plans to launch my own blog some time next week. Didn’t want to start the blog right away – just wanted to make sure to secure the domain name before somebody else could totally out-of-the-blue just randomly decide to buy it 2 minutes before me… so, I got that done, called it a day, and told myself that when I got up today, I would reward myself with hours and hours of video games.
I knew I needed a break from working… a chance to let my mind recover, and to mentally adjust to this new reality… and I’ve been wanting to get back into this game for some time now, so it seemed like the perfect opportunity.
But somewhere between breakfast and gaming… I decided to use the 5 Second Rule to go ahead and set up my blog, and write my first post… figuring, that way, if I did *happen* to tell anyone about it this weekend, I could point them to the URL and instead of a boring “Coming Soon…”, they could actually read my first post and start to get an idea what my blog is all about…
So, I set up my blog, zip zam zoom, easy peasy lemon squeezie. And I write.
The. Most. Incredible Piece. Of Literature. That. Has. Ever. Been. Composed. In the English language!
(I’m not kidding; it was even better than ‘Cats.’ If I had any artistic talent, it probably could have even rivaled Calvin and Hobbes. Or, at least be on a par with Jughead. Shakespeare was probs spinning in his grave…)
In my greatest moment of triumph and victory… moments away from *finally* playing my game!
I used the 5 Second Rule to save my post, so that I could go ahead and wait until Monday to publish it, after all. (I don’t work on Sundays, so I didn’t want to worry about publishing something today, and feeling like I need to check on it all day tomorrow…) And then I navigated away from the WordPress “Edit Post” page, to check the general blog settings…
Only to discover, moments later…
That my ultimate post, my tour-de-force, my greatest creation ever in 41 years on this earth, the ONE BLOG ENTRY that could have EASILY won me the Pulitzer Peace prize…
(Wah wah waaaaaaah…)
I almost cried. I thought really hard about swearing at the computer.
I wanted to pour my coffee right down the front of the monitor, to exact my revenge… but instead, I 5-4-3-2-1’d myself up out of my chair, away from my computer, and into a different part of the house…
and then 5-4-3-2-1’d a couple more times, until I was finally able to just let go… to accept the situation… to (almost) laugh at my misfortune… and finally, to convince myself that it didn’t matter… that whatever I write on Monday now, will be just as good – if not better…
and that the next time I decide I need to play video games for awhile… to give myself a break… I’m just going to do it.
It’s a lot less frustrating than accidentally using the 5 Second Rule to ruin your morning.